What You Can Say To Someone Battling Depression
Instead, you can try to be emotionally neutral. This way, you allow space for your friend or family member to feel what they are feeling. Let them lead the flow of conversation. Try not to take over by telling stories or talking about something else as a distraction. You can repeat back what your friend shares to acknowledge that you understand what they are sharing.
Be patient. Don’t force your friend to talk if they aren’t ready. Your loved one may still be processing their feelings. They may not want to talk about anything, but you can still offer comfort in silence. When they’re ready to talk, they will know you’re available and may feel comfortable sharing. If they just need to cry, let them do so without asking questions. You can say things like:
* It’s ok that you feel sad.
* It’s ok to cry.
* I am here to listen if you want to talk. If not, I can just be here with you.
Offer encouragement. If you see your friend or family member making positive progress, point it out kindly. Avoid being sarcastic and saying things like:
* Wow, you finally got dressed.
* It looks like you decided to clean up some.
* You haven’t done your makeup in so long.
Instead, you can acknowledge their efforts by saying things like:
* I’m so happy you’re up early. Can I bring you some breakfast?
* Your house looks so good, and I know that it took a lot of work.
* Do you feel any better today?
Be ready for negativity. Your loved one may have some days that are worse than others. They may lash out at you or ignore you. Continue reaching out and showing you care without being pushy. You can say things like:
* I’m always here if you need to talk.
* I’ll reach out again tomorrow to see if there’s anything you need.
* I’m sorry you’re having a particularly bad day.
Tips for Overcoming Depression
Depression can feel impossible. You don’t have to give in to depression and think that things won’t get better. Instead, use these tips to improve your outlook:
* Get help from a mental health professional.
* Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline ( ) if you feel helpless.
* Maintain activities that you once enjoyed.
* Keep up with friends and family members by talking regularly.
* Get some exercise, even if you just go for a short walk.
* Keep a routine of getting enough sleep and maintaining a healthy diet.
* Adjust your expectations so you can cope with depression.
* Don’t drink or do drugs as a way of treating your depression.
* Search for local depression resources.